{"id":3285,"date":"2021-11-01T18:17:39","date_gmt":"2021-11-01T18:17:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/evagruber.org\/?p=3285"},"modified":"2021-11-11T18:57:17","modified_gmt":"2021-11-11T18:57:17","slug":"mastering-your-saboteurs-a-press-interview","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/evagruber.org\/de\/mastering-your-saboteurs-a-press-interview\/","title":{"rendered":"Mastering your saboteurs. [Press Interview]"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Being interviewed by the press is exciting!\u00a0But being truly listened to and understood in my message was my big pleasure this time!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I thank Michael K\u00f6ttritsch from Die Presse (Management & Career)<\/a> <\/strong>for this to-the-point story.<\/p>\n

Read this great article (in German here<\/a> or via the picture)<\/strong> to learn about our well needed Mental Fitness<\/a> <\/strong>in times of a challenge, my new book Creating Impact<\/a><\/strong>, and my work as a Habit Coach.<\/p>\n

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Dealing with the saboteurs<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

By Michael K\u00f6ttritsch, Die Presse \/ Management & Career<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Mental Fitness. They are apparently helpful, the Mental Saboteurs we all have within us. Eva Gruber advises dealing with them and developing actually helpful strategies.<\/b><\/p>\n

It is always a negative emotion that gets things rolling and the Mental Saboteurs into play: fear or one of its siblings such as anger, insecurity, shame or guilt. If you feel negative emotions, special regions in the brain would become active and behavior patterns automatically unwound, which should only answer one question, says Eva Gruber: „How can I survive this?“ She deals with Mental Fitness as a coach and wrote with 16 other authors the bestseller „Creating Impact: Changemakers Who Overcame Adversity To Create A Positive Impact In The World“. „Each of us has developed our own strategies for this,“ says Gruber. Many of them are helpful in the short term, but not at all in the long term.<\/span><\/p>\n

Shirzad Chamine, who teaches \u201cPositive Intelligence\u201d at Stanford University, has worked out ten such strategies as \u201cMental Saboteurs\u201d: the Victim (with a martyr attitude), the Stickler (with exaggerated need for order and organization), the Restless (rarely satisfied with current activity), the Pleaser (lose sight of their own needs), the Judge (criticize everything), the Hyper-Vigilant (see everything in danger), the Hyper-Rational (see relationships as rational), the Hyper-Achiever (gain self-affirmation through performance), the Controller (want to steer situations and people) and the Avoider (avoid conflicts).<\/span><\/p>\n

„I am good for you“<\/b><\/p>\n

The unpleasant thing about the Mental Saboteurs is that they keep saying: \u201cI am good for you.\u201d And indeed: They are loyal and reliable and want to \u201cprotect\u201d you from having to think about alternative actions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gruber gives an example: People who want to advance something in fast-moving times (such as managers) often feel the critical Judge, the Restless, the Pleaser who wants to please everyone and the performance-driven Hyper-Achiever, who raises the bar even higher when approached by something from outside. The Hyper-Achiever has learned: „To get love, I perform.“ But the sense of achievement does not make him\/her (more) satisfied, says Gruber.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is difficult to recognize one’s own Mental Saboteurs, says Gruber, „because we have learned them since childhood, because we mirror and compensate with them“. And because we often „have too little relation to ourselves\u201d, because we are very consumed in our daily activities. We all have many roles, many, too many hats and are often emotionally overloaded“, says Gruber, who prefers to speak of \u201cMental Fitness\u201d than \u201cMental Health“. The latter is associated with illness, and it is still stigmatized. \u201cFitness has charm,\u201d she says. Keeping physically fit is self-evident for many. Mental Fitness needs constant training in order to leave the highways in the head and to break new ground. Just recognizing that there are Mental Saboteurs causes change. What else can help:<\/span><\/p>\n